You’re Not the Only One – Support for Spouses of TBI Survivors by Casey Bachus
Life Stops after TBI
It’s been almost two and a half years now since my husband’s TBI. At the time, life stopped. Everything revolved around Jeff and his recovery.
I didn’t have much time to search for resources. I was limited to what friends, family, and doctors told me about. I found that other people had dealt with this, but I couldn’t find any other spouses for a while. There weren’t a lot of resources that I found for spouses. That may be due in large part, to the fact that many spouses don’t stay together after something like this.
But what about spouses who stay together?
Before Jeff’s accident, brain injuries seemed very rare. Now, they are everywhere. Partly this is due to my heightened awareness, but people are reaching out to me now. They know I have dealt with it, and came out victorious. People have given my number to friends who are currently dealing with this life altering accident.
I get calls and emails from people wanting to share their burden. Wanting to know how I made it through. Wanting their feelings to be validated. Wanting to know they are not alone. It is freeing to know that someone can share in our struggles.
I had God’s strength, along with the love and support of family and friends to get me through. Now it’s time to share my story with others, so they can know it’s possible to get through this.
Spouses reach out and touch and support each other
It’s time to reach out to other TBI survivor spouses. How can we reach out to them? How can we support them? They are facing a lifelong journey. After everyone else goes back to their own lives, and the support fades away, they are left. Sometimes just the knowledge of knowing there is someone out there with the same struggles can bring huge relief.
It is possible to get through this, but we need support.
Now that I have had more time to research, I have found many more sources out there. There is help; we just have to find it. So let’s make an effort to raise awareness. Let’s make an effort to share our own stories.
When you are willing to share someone else’s burden, it opens the door for you to have your own burden shared. You can help yourself at the same time you help someone else.
So if you are, or have already struggled through this, make an effort to reach out to someone else. You can ease each other’s burdens. Spread the word about what resources you found helpful.
About the Author:
Casey Bachus has a MA in Marriage and Family Counseling. She is the author of How I Survived My Husband’s Brain Injury, her journey after her husband Jeff’s TBI.