Example of building self awareness
Use yourself as a model by talking about your strengths and weaknesses. Examples of comments are…
“I’m too tired to do this now. I will wait until tomorrow when I’ll have the energy to do it right.”
“I’m excellent at writing e-mails but your dad is better at talking on the phone.”
Enable Guided Independence
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Find ways to minimize over-protectiveness.
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Celebrate successes in growing independence.
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Take it one step at a time
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Try to let go.
Example
Jenny’s dad could not imagine letting her shop in the mall with her friends, but he knew she needed to grow up. He started by letting her buy a Slurpee while he watched through the front window of the 7-11 store. Once she did this easily, he took her to the grocery store and let her follow a list to buy groceries for dinner while he waited by the front entrance.
Next, Jenny’s dad chose one of her best friends and took the girls to the mall, setting a 20 minute limit for them to shop before meeting him. Eventually, he was able to let her go for longer periods as Jenny gained in skills and confidence.
Depending on your child’s abilities, including mobility, memory, and judgment, some families continue and graduate to increasingly independent activities. By gradually increasing the independence of your child, you can be reassured by your child’s abilities and at the same time increase your child’s confidence.
