How Can We Teach Social Skills?

Teens who have brain injuries typically do not learn well from the consequences of their misbehavior or mistakes.  They usually do the same thing that previously got them in trouble the next time they’re in the same situation.  They may be able to say what they should do, but are unable to do it when they’re in the situation.  Everyday experiences and strategies that usually work to correct misbehavior (scolding, time out, school suspension, behavior contracts) are unlikely to be effective.

Tips for parents and educators…

Instead of ramping up consequences for misbehavior, try to…

-   Identify the behaviors (not motivations or values) that are the problem.

-   List alternative behaviors that would be better.

-   Teach your teen those behaviors - what to do.

-   Role play using the behavior in private.

-   Practice in real life situations.

-   Remind your teen what to do in situations that have   been a problem before.

-   Make sure that an adult or a reliable peer is available in every setting for support.