Ten Choices When Life Feels Stuck after a Brain Injury!

Brain Injury Blog by Janelle Breese Biagioni

May 16, 2011

Choices May be Even More Important after a Brain Injury – Don’t Get Stuck!

At times we forget how much choice plays into where we are in life. You can choose to feel whatever you want to feel. You can choose to work on making a difference for yourself and others – and you can choose to not make a difference. You can choose to change your life and move it in the direction you want, but along with the choice there comes a commitment to do the work. So if you are feeling stuck where you are, consider giving some of the following choices a try:

1.  Choose your feelings

We have the right to choose our feelings and to choose which of those feelings will take our attention. Acknowledge, name, and observe what you are feeling and determine if that is what you do want to feel.

2.  Choose forgiveness for others and yourself

Learning to forgive does not mean, “It’s okay what you did to me” or “I have no right to be angry.” You forgive the person, not the action.  In forgiving you are taking the power and declaring, “I will not be a vessel for this ill feeling any longer.  I will not carry this anger in response to your actions.”  We must also learn to forgive ourselves for past mistakes. “We don’t make mistakes – we make experiences!”

3.  Choose to let go of anger and resentment

It’s natural to feel anger and even resentment at times.  However, it’s not natural to carry those feelings around and it stops life cold when we do.  We must acknowledge the anger, give it a name, let it go, and move forward.  By holding on to these dark issues we give it power and control. Letting go takes back the control and opens your heart and soul to receive.

4.  Choose the present moment opposed to the past or future

The present moment is all we have.  Everything else (even as you read this) is one second in the past and one second in the future.  By focusing on what happened to you in the past means that you remain living in the past.  By anticipating what will happen to you in the future, you are grasping at what may or may not happen. By learning to be present in the moment, you begin to experience life more fully and see the beauty around you.

5.  Choose your thoughts to direct your life

This teaches the Universal Law of Attraction (i.e., like attracts like – positive attracts positive – negative attracts negative).  If you put out positive thoughts you attract into your life positive situations, people, and opportunities.

6.  Choose your soulful self over your physical self

The soul remains intact regardless of what happens to our physical bodies.  The blood and flesh are mere packaging.  No matter what circumstances we endure the essence of our spirit remains. You can choose to reclaim that essence. You are still you! Don’t let your physical capabilities or deficits define who you are!

7.  Choose where you hold your power

Learn to center your energy on your inner self and be mindfully aware of where you put your attention. Choose positive energy over negative energy.  Learn to let go of situations and people if it is not for your higher good.

8.  Choose to trust your inner self and create balance in life

We hold all the answers within to resolve situations, create what we want, and manifest what we need. We need to pay more attention to information, feelings, and the intuition that comes to us when we have asked for help.  Usually we aren’t listening. Learn to follow your instincts with confidence and tune into that “little voice.”

9.  Choose to expect and receive abundance, prosperity and happiness

Once we are in balance, we can expect to have all our needs met.  We are worthy of having abundance of love, money, and happiness.  We must ask for what we need and want and then be sure we do not sabotage our requests with negative thinking (fear-based emotions.)

10. Choose to discover your life purpose

We come to earth with a purpose; this life purpose is different for everyone. It can be from being a gardener to being famous. Often circumstances (tragedy) will move us to find this purpose. We must ask, trust, and follow.  When you find it — you will know it.  You feel it.  Living our life purpose brings us joy and harmony!

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  3. Thank you so much Janelle for these wise words. It is so much easier to hold on to the anger when hurt or disappointed by others rather than choosing to focus on the present. Knowing your inner self and finding that balance is the key, not only to survival but to a meaningful life and positive relationships.

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