Budgeting Grief at Christmas after Brain Injury

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Budgeting Grief at Christmas

by Janelle Breese Biagioni

We like to think of Christmas as a time that is rich with tradition and filled with joyful festivities.  People look forward to spending the holidays with family and friends, exchanging gifts, indulging in delectable treats and reminiscing about the good old days.  On the other hand, for many, it brings tremendous pressure to celebrate it in the way we always did or in the same way others do.

When you have been injured and your financial situation has changed dramatically the stress of gift giving on a budget is challenging to cope with. We all say that “it’s the thought that counts” but when you are the one who wants to give presents to loved ones and can’t, the reality is we doubt the thought will be enough.

First and foremost, try to minimize any stress around this. There are others ways in which you can extend a gift to those you love. It may take some creativity and work, but you can do it. Give from your heart and there is no doubt that “the thought will count.”

Everyone has skills and talents. Perhaps you are a fantastic baker. Or you love gardening. Maybe you are very skilled at housecleaning or enjoy yard cleanup. Any one of these areas would be a suitable gift to bestow on family and friends. In this hectic world, having someone else do the Christmas baking, or rake the leaves in the backyard, or spend a few hours dusting and washing floors would be a tremendous time-saver and thoughtful offering.

Regardless of your gift-giving budget, take inventory of your skills and talents. Ask yourself, “What can I do for ______ that would show them how much I appreciate them and how important they are to me?” And then create a gift certificate for them and tuck it into a card. Or write them a letter of gratitude or poem of appreciation. I guarantee that your thoughtfulness will not only be of immediate benefit to your loved one, but they will cherish the gift of your time and effort for many years to come.


December 5, 2011

4 responses to “Budgeting Grief at Christmas after Brain Injury”

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  3. Really good article, thanks! I am the mom of a 14 yr old boy who has been recovering from Post Concussion Syndrome with 3 major setbacks since May, 2010.
    My son did this with neighbor of ours that has been extremely compassionate about his injuries. He hand wrote a thank you letter to her in appreciation and she loved that it came from the heart. He also cannot be in a store right now to shop so I helped him to create a card on my computer for his dad. I’m sure it will be cherished much longer than the store bought ones.

  4. Great ideas. Thank you for posting this. We need to keep our loved ones in mind when the holiday spirit strikes us, it may not strike them.

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