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Healing Your Heart After a Brain Injury

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Healing Your Heart After a Brain Injury – Hope for brain injury survivors

by Barbara Webster

Brain injury can feel like a cold winter.

Winter can be a tough season for anyone but it can be exceptionally distressing for brain injury survivors.  On top of struggling with the typical “winter blues”, brain injury survivors are struggling with a fundamental Life Crisis: who am I and what is my value if I can’t do what I used to do, if my friends aren’t my friends anymore and am I a problem for my family?

Something you may not realize is that there is commonly a grieving process associated with healing from a brain injury.  You have lost much of your “sense of self”.  You don’t know how much you will get back and you may not know for a long time.  There are often secondary losses as well – jobs, income, homes, friends, even family.  These changes and losses all have a profound effect on a survivor, as well as their family and friends.

In order to heal and be able to move forward, it is essential to acknowledge the losses and allow yourself to mourn. The common stages associated with the grieving process are: denial, anger, bargaining, depression and acceptance, but know that processing grief is not a straightforward path.  Typically one moves back and forth in the different stages.  Know that is “normal”. Support groups can be helpful. Getting in touch with your spiritual guides can help. Professional help is often necessary.

Keep in mind that your family members and friends may be grieving too.  They have lost the person you used to be and the role you used to play in their lives.  They don’t know how much of your former self will return either.

Strategies that can be helpful

Remember that you are still the same unique and valuable person inside, with the same loves that you had before your injury.  No one and no injury can take that away from you.

Depression, like winter, is usually temporary, but if it isn’t and you are losing hope, please seek professional help. 

Lost and Found, A Survivors Guide for Reconstructing  Life after a Brain Injury  

By Barbara Webster

Coping with life after brain injury is not easy. This practical and user friendly workbook and guide for survivors and their families is packed with everyday strategies, tips and accommodations to address the cognitive challenges of daily life.

Based on the author’s experience as a survivor and as a facilitator of hundreds of support groups, she presents a philosophy and approach for overcoming challenges, envisioning goals, and continuing their healing process.

January 25, 2013