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badge2Living your life with a brain injury is much more complex than physical survival and medical progress. These blog articles discuss the long term effects of brain injuries on relationships over time.

RICO REMINDS ME… I am loved!

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I wasn’t planning on getting another dog, that fine June day, when I found Rico. Or maybe it is better to say when Rico found me. “No dog is better than the wrong dog,” I tried to explain to Katie, a young teenager, who didn’t quite believe me. Her mother, Sheila, had tried to explain to Katie that I was very serious and that she should NOT pressure me to get another dog. Somehow, Katie did not really believe her mother or me.

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Relationship Perspectives

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To gain a perspective is to gain another point of view. In a relationship, it is important that we try to understand where the other person is coming from or where they are at in their life. Seeking to understand first before being understood is a challenge for most people, but if you can approach a situation from this angle, I guarantee you will gain a new perspective.

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Eight Tips for Caregivers in the “New Normal” Stage after Brain Injury

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Family caregivers move through several seasons or stages as their loved one progresses through treatment in the intensive care unit, to inpatient rehabilitation, and finally back home. But we know that’s only a new beginning- not a finish line. Each stage comes with its own emotional responses and tasks to master. Fortunately, there are skills and strategies that a caregiver can learn to help maintain his/her own health, and make the job easier.

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Community and Relationships with Traumatic Brain Injury

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I attended an educational conference once where the speaker spoke on individuals with disabilities and how difficult it can be for them to integrate in society and build community. He then went on to give an example on how acquired disabilities can make the task of building community even more difficult due to the individual remembering how they once interacted in community and how they were accepted in society prior to their acquired disability.

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Summer Fun with Brain Injury

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The weather has been extremely unusual in Canada this year. Normally, we could be outdoors at the beach by now, instead the weather warms only intermittently. Even if the sun doesn’t shine, people can still enjoy outdoor activities, which are essential to a well-balanced and healthy lifestyle

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What Tucker Taught Me After Brain Injury

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On June 29, 2005, I sustained a Traumatic Brain Injury (TBI) while working as a stagehand and setting up for a Santana concert. My whole life changed in one quick second as my feet left the stage, my head hit the cement floor below, and my whole body went into seizures. Then everything stopped. Many of my friends and co-workers thought I was dead. But I survived! I am still surviving.

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Prepping for Successful Summer Fun – Even with a Brain Injury

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Summer is ripe with parties, cook-outs, baseball games, and time in the great outdoors. For a person who has a brain injury, these social events can present a few challenges as well as fun. For the caregiver, summer traditions can be a chance to give the survivor a hand, while practicing letting him/her be more independent.

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Ambiguous Loss – The Sorrow that Won’t Go Away after a Brain Injury

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Ambiguous loss is also called “mobile mourning” and “chronic sorrow.” It can affect both the survivor and family member in deep and ongoing ways. Family caregivers may recognize it as that strange feeling that the person who survived the brain injury just is not the same person he/she was before. It’s confusing because you may be grateful that the person lived, but grieve for the person he was before. Ambiguous loss matters because it can make it hard for you to find hope or move on in this “new normal” life.

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The Beginning of Life and Hope after my Brain Injury

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Understanding my blog is knowing that I have been, am currently and will be in this world as long as the good Lord has planned for me to be here. However, I am definitely not and never will be of this world. Now, according to the title of a song by Black Eyed Peas, Let’s Get It Started!…

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Tucker Taught Me … Don’t Forget to Eat!

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It was a Monday night, over a candle lit dinner with music softly playing in the back ground, when my partner of ten years informed me that we needed to separate. I was shocked. “For how long?” I asked. “Permanently,” she stated. “Then that’s a divorce, not a separation,” I clarified. “Yes,” she answered. “When?” I asked. Suddenly, I was fired as friend, lover and life partner, with a few weeks’ notice. My world began to crumble.

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